In Search Of Happiness...

Wikipedia states Happiness to be a state of mind or feeling characterized by contentment, love, satisfaction, pleasure, or joy...

Research has identified a number of attributes that correlate with happiness:..
Relationships and social interaction, marital status, employment, health, democratic freedom, optimism, endorphins released through physical exercise and eating chocolate, religious involvement, income and proximity to other happy people.

I personally feel that happiness is the undying quest of life, the unquenchable thirst and the insatiable hunger of all human kind. It is what we all seek for, what we long for. But can such bliss be nothing but an elusive state of mind, which is here one moment and gone the next, or is such a positive outlook attainable for a lifetime?
Perhaps it is, it just is.

As in... Remember the last time when you felt an immense sense of wellbeing, lightness in your body and spirit.

The energy of that life force might have made you shine at work, deeply connect with people, unleash creativity at work, smile at the raging traffic, hum a tune while you waited for the jam to clear, and return home to envelope your family in a cosy blanket of love and caring.

Sometimes we're too busy dealing with our daily chores that we forget about the simple happiness in life, like being healthy, or having family members around.

Happiness is a continuous journey. As a child you would find happiness in your toys. As a teenager you would find happiness in your laurels. As a man you would find happiness in a good financial position. As a parent you would find happiness in your own children. As a husband in your wife and as a wife in your husband. As a friend in your kindness. As an enemy in your ruthlessness. When you're alone you would find happiness from within but this inner happiness is applicable to all.

Happiness, i feel, is more of a choice and attitude than a set of circumstances.

A young friend of mine once spent a long time trying to work out what happiness was, particularly happiness for women. When she first thought about happiness she saw it as a matter of becoming financially secure or getting married. But looking at friends who were married, she realized that marriage didn't necessarily guarantee happiness.


She saw couples who had been passionately in love suffering from discord soon after their wedding. She saw women who had married men with money or status but who fought constantly with their husbands.


Gradually, she realized that the secret of happiness lay in building a strong inner self that no trial or hardship could ruin. She saw that happiness for anyone - man or woman - does not come simply from having a formal education, from wealth or from marriage. It begins with having the strength to confront and conquer one's own weaknesses. Only then does it become possible to lead a truly happy life.


She finally told me, "Now I can say with confidence that happiness doesn't exist in the past or in the future. It only exists within our state of life right now, here in the present, as we face the challenges of daily life."


I agree entirely. You yourself know best whether you are feeling joy or struggling with suffering. These things are not known to other people. Even a man who has great wealth, social recognition and many awards may still be shadowed by indescribable suffering deep in his heart. On the other hand, an elderly woman who is not fortunate financially, leading a simple life alone, may feel the sun of joy and happiness rising in her heart each day.

Another friend of mine asked me... "If your happiness is to see your partner happy but his happiness is with someone else, then are u willing to let go?"

oh i so wish not to answer this... anyways different people ... different versions...

anyways... i feel truly happy n content when my i am wid my best friend...now my hubby... i feel
truly blessed when i am wid my 3 bestest friends... whom i fondly call my "3 idiots..." and i feel eternal bliss, when i cozy onto my mom's lap and she fondly caresses my hair.... oh!!! i sooooo miss it...

So to sum it up in a few words.. i recollect what my colleague`s daughter puts it up to be.."happiness is when mom n dad come home in the evening and we play cards!"

ciao n be happy... always!!