Best Friends Forever!

I have to admit that each time I watch a re-run of Sex and the City, I'm reminded of my three angels Hims, Soni and Mans, back in Mumbai and start wondering that if my life had to be this sitcom.... who would be who?  I'm so bloody jealous of Carrie Bradshaw's friendships. The foxy quartet seem to have infinite time and opportunity to sit, talk, and laugh. I often wonder... why not us?

Why does carving out time to meet my best friends for a leisurely lunch feel like a guilty indulgence even before I look at the menu? To tell the truth, I'm so pressured by the unfinished tasks on my to-do list that I even hesitate to take the time to catch up with them on phone. Its not the case of taking the friend ship for granted, in fact i sooooo value the kinda unconditional bond that we share.  Feelings like this are eerily reminiscent of the days when I was a junior college student weighed down by now-so-simple  assignments. Now, I'm still driven by deadlines and responsibility. 

Certainly, the friendship pattern of the current generation of women are infinitely more complex and dynamic than the ones that preceded them. Our lives are filled with more possibilities. Women repeatedly echo the sentiment that having one best friend isn't enough---particularly if that best friend moves away, gets married, changes careers,  has children,or her life circumstances change significantly. The dynamic lives of two close friends rarely follow parallel path, spare those childhood swear nights of being together come what may! The dreadful divergence is obvious and eventual.

There is abundant research that suggests that close friendships are essential to a woman's health and emotional well-being; these vital ties enable them to become better wives, mothers, daughters, and workers. To maintain these relationships, though, we need to create and maintain face-to-face rituals with our female friends. This can take the form of a naughty girls night out or planning periodic girlfriend getaways (that is if you can coordinate the holidays). 

The choices we make depend on our personalities, interests and life situations. But to make life-affirming and joyful friendships that stick, there's no substitute for putting in the time, so what if it happens to be once in six months. We all need to develop routines to incorporate friendship into the ordinary fabric of our lives and promise to make them a priority - right my sexy angels??? Dare you disagree... being the only Psycho married case amongst the lot, i have the right to certify it.

It is one of the blessings of old friends that you can afford to be stupid with them and i am blessed with not one but three super willed, stubborn and self indulgent beautiful individuals! Today when i look back at the wonderful journey that life has traced... the amazing times spent with my  BFF's  flash in a row. 

 I can never get tired of the Enlightenment sessions of the evergreen HimBaba(you give me the boost to live life to the fullest!), the Daydreaming of pseudoambitioned Sonia (you give me the assurance that even when i'm in the deepest shit, you will be there for the rescue) and the forthrightness of the super-critically opinionated Manasi (you keep me grounded with the immense trust you show in me!)! You gals are like dope... i can never have enough of you! I really do believe that destiny had the strongest role to play in getting us together on the fateful afternoon of 21st may 2006. Missing you guys like never before.

Carrie Bradshaw..... You Jealous????